One of the things that we struggle with is the cost of help for mom and dad. Dad is adamant that he will not leave the farm. And for him, we want to do everything that we can to make that happen for as long as we can. Currently, we have a caregiver coming in to help out four days a week. She is only there about 4 hours on those four days, so what she can do is limited. But she cleans and drives them around town. She lets mom vent about her problems and she jokes around with dad. We will soon have to increase the time that someone spends with them. I need someone to cook meals for them and to oversee their medication. I need someone that mom can’t boss around and manipulate. Mom is getting tired and her judgement (not the best in good times) is getting worse.
Last week I checked into a benefit that Mike stumbled across, VA pension benefits. I spoke with a representative and at this time, dad does not qualify. But the purpose of the program is to provide a monthly stipend to allow the elderly to remain in their homes as long as possible. Dad could qualify for about $2000 per month from the VA because he was active duty during the Korean war. He will have to be more incapacitated than he is now, but we will keep it in reserve and try and utilize it when the time comes. http://www.benefits.va.gov/PENSION It is definitely a benefit that I encourage everyone to check into.